Thursday, December 31, 2009

40 Things I have learned in 40 years

Today is my birthday, I am in the 40 something club. A few years ago I saw a list like this someone posted and I started writing my own. There is wisdom that comes with age. Here are the things I have come up with so far. Of course friends that are older than me assure me that I am still young and still have a lot to learn....and I believe them.

40+ things I have learned in 40+ years:

1. My life is a miracle. Not just the "normal" kind of miracle but the fact that I was adopted by two loving parents and guided to a special husband makes it a miracle twice over.

2. It is OK to let a friendship go. Certain friendships are for certain times of your life and if one is no longer serving you let it go. If you have changed and are growing in different directions it is not healthy to keep hanging on because of your past. Make room for a new friendship.

3. When in doubt just be polite. This advise came to me via Dr. Laura's radio program, it has helped me through some tough times and relationships.

4. Have Fun. No matter what your life's circumstance are you can and should have a little fun now and then. No matter what your responsibilities are you will be a better (mother, caretaker, cook, etc.) if you take a break and do something really fun.

5. All the Proverbs are true, don't judge a man till you've walked in his shoes, early to bed early to rise, you catch more flies with honey, a penny saved is a penny earned...

6. The best thing you can do for a friend is to listen. Being a good listener is a skill I am still working on. I have noticed in the time I have been working on it all of my relationships have improved, especially my marriage and friendships.

7. Good Advice: Make a Bucket List. Write down the things you want to accomplish before you "kick the bucket" and keep it where you will see it often. Start making those things happen!

8. Listen to your body. Don't keep going and going when it is telling you to slow down. Learn to cancel appointments if you need to and let yourself have down time.

9. Sleep- the most important thing you can do for your body. Arrange your life so that you get enough, whether that means a full 8 hours or a nap in the day. If you are feeling a little off get some sleep.

10. Every day is a new start, if you don't like the way things went today tomorrow you can start fresh.

11. Children are worth it!

12. You can make a difference in someone else's life and when you do you find meaning in your own life.

13. I would rather walk than ride.

14. Laughter really is the best medicine.

15. There is beauty all around all the time, you just need to look for it.

16. I like to take pictures.

17. Sometimes the best way to help someone is to be patient while they figure the problem out themselves.

18. When someone does something that really makes you crazy, take a look at yourself. The problem isn't with them, it is with you.

19. The only thing that is certain is change. So if you are hoping a situation will change, be patient it will. If you are hoping things will stay the same, enjoy them because they won't.

20. Pick your battles and your goals, you can make things happen but you can't make everything happen (at least not all at once).

21. Having a plan doesn't mean you have to stick to it.

22. Travel is the best education available.

23. Music can change your mood in a moment.

24. Dogs are worth it.

25. Saying "I'm sorry" changes everything.

26. Health is the biggest and best blessing of all, cherish it.

27. My favorite place to be is in the garden.

28. Prayer can get you through anything.

29. To truly change your life you need to have a plan and be diligent.

30. Mid-life crisis is a real phenomenon.

31. Snow is beautiful.

32. Karma is real.

33. Teaching is my calling.

34. Love makes the world go 'round.

35. The best way to enjoy life is to focus on people not things.

36. Mother nature is smarter than I am.

37. True friends.....priceless!

38. Spend time with your kids, teach them about every facet of life and when they leave you won't worry quite as much.

39. Your reaction to a problem is more important than the problem ever will be.

40. Life is full of surprises!

41. One day at a time, one child at a time, one meal at a time....enjoy the moment.


  1. Happy Birthday! My 92 year old grandmother said her 40's were her favorite years, she said you know a bit more and still enjoy your looks. I love your list. I'm in my 40's but I think you may ave gathered a bit more wisdom than I. I'm still looking for some.

  2. Happy Birthday Karen! What a great and inspirational list! Happy New Year, Ina from the Westcoast

  3. Thanks for the birthday wishes ladies, Mrs. Ed you are in your 40's? You look fabulous! Ina, can I get your email address again? I have been wanting to get in touch with you but can't find it. Thanks for the comments, Karen